You cannot heal a wound you keep reopening with hope. If your mother is incapable of giving you emotional safety, apologizing, or changing, you must grieve the mother you needed—the one you never had. This grief is real. Let yourself cry, rage, or withdraw for a time.
The biggest obstacle to healing is the internalized belief that naming the pain is betrayal. It is not. You can love your mother and still acknowledge that she harmed you. Both truths can coexist.
Journaling prompt:
“One thing my mother did that hurt me was… I am allowed to feel that pain without needing to blame or forgive yet.” sin traxaet mamu better
Title: Sin Traxaet, Mamu… Better?
Body:
They say “Sin traxaet mamu better” —
Freer mornings, quieter nights,
No reminders to fix my hair,
No packed lunch with extra care. You cannot heal a wound you keep reopening with hope
But better is cold coffee alone,
A messy room, a silent phone.
Better is not having you near —
Only if better means less fear.
Truth is, Mamu, without you here,
The house is big, but life is unclear.
So let me be wrong, let me lose that debate —
Con traxaet mamu, that’s truly great. Depending on your situation, choose one of three paths:
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I love you, Ma. Always better with you. ❤️
Depending on your situation, choose one of three paths: